Besides the current world affairs that I am upset with, I am currently peeved at a (new) local blogger. He has spammed several known bloggers’ tagboards, by telling people he put up pictures of an accident. Actually, he had the gall to tell people he had pictures of the victims who perished in the accident.
He has taken down that post, to which I am grateful for. However, he has confirmed on his tagboard that it was because of an e-mail that made him do so. Not the comments I left on his tagboard. I will not link him, I do not wish to ever link him. I do not wish to be associated with someone so insensitive.
I have to admit, I am very sensitive in regards to this. There was once the video of the deceased Bruneian couple in Limbang floating around, in which I refuse to watch or even listen to people talk about it. I do not appreciate people passing these kinds of things around. I do not appreciate people disregarding these things, like, “Oh, they’re just pictures and videos.”
No, they’re not just pictures and videos. They’re pictures and videos of someone else’s late sons, daughters, fathers, mothers, uncles, or aunts. People are grieving over their deaths, and you take it lightly and post them up on your blog, saying people have a right to view them. What right do you have to look into the faces of the deceased who might have, in the past, been someone else’s loved ones? Tell me: WHAT RIGHT DO YOU HAVE?
If it were your parents who perished in a fire, and someone irresponsible took pictures of the remains of your parents’ bodies, would you want it published on someone’s blog for the whole world to see? Imagine if it were you? If you died horribly in a car crash, would you want pictures of the scene be viewed by the public? Is that the way you want to be remembered?
This is a reminder to all those who wish to open up blogs, whether to create controversy or be famous (as can be viewed in the cretin’s most recent post), have respect for the deceased.
If you are wondering why I’m so defensive about it, it’s really personal. My dad was involved in a car accident where he was a front-seat passenger who suffered internal injuries. Thankfully, he did not die on the spot, he lived on for forty more days before he passed away. Even myself, who, thankfully, did not lose someone I love in an accident, feel very taken aback and offended on the things that Bruneians would do for a piece of gossip or simply ’something to talk about’.
And you know what’s stupid? The news of the accident was not ‘hidden’, it was all in the news. Everyone knew about it. In fact, I believe it was in one of the major local blogs somewhere. Depicting whatever was necessary, like the building or rescue workers, was enough as it is, there is no need to publish photos of the deceased.
Have respect for both the living and the dead. People are mourning for loss of lives everywhere. You don’t need to make them feel worse. I, myself, am still mourning over the loss of my dad, and I take it very seriously that you take in and understand all this. You are not ‘criticising’ nor ‘commenting’ on the matter, you are simply being disrespectful.

the cretin’s most recent post?? just cos u feel sory of ur dads’ death doesnt mean dat u can ‘brand’ me wateva u want. liat ja luar sana ah urg accident saja byk jo krita slow-down so wat dat just bruneian! how many ppl response either givin bad comments o just pass-by 2 my post do u tink?? more den i expected sal pa?? durang bruneian wa! such a TYPICAL, CLOSE MINDED bruneian dats u! i duno how many of u out there. so HYPOCRITE pretend u dun wana know but still visit my blog.. eyh cali jo ah ckp disrespect urg mati tp ia jo ko liat! i dun want u link me either so wat.. dgr gosip sana sini blagak suci th plang! ia jo 2×5 nya x.. no matter cana tah ko kan hide such info still urg tau jo bh pyh saja.. byk jo urg kan tau bh y cant i post it?? aku dpt dat pics pun dri blog urg bah y cant i post?? cae taya blog urg ahh, report taya smua skli pyh x ko mcae.. dmana2 bleh urg dpt resources ne dang jgn th! mun urg tend to be so curious kan tau y can we just give them??
Yes, you are a cretin, because you don’t see how disrespectful you are. You think you are so right, inda lagi ko tepikir yang ko ani kurang ajar arah orang.
EXCUSE ME?? Just because I feel SORRY because of my dad’s DEATH? Pernah kah ko ani kehilangan indung? Kehilangan adi, abang, kaka? Pernah kah? Kalau ko pernah, mesti ko merasai macam mana rasanya. Ko inda paham wah. Memang dari mula sudah ko inda paham.
Jangan yang BURUK ko simpan dalam blog atu. Awu, banar tah orang Brunei ani banyak slow down di jalan raya mun ada accident. Kalau ko kenal aku ani, aku ani jenisnya yang hon orang mun dorang LAMBAT sekadar kan meliat orang dalam keadaan SAKIT. Rasakan ku bagitau, jalan tah macam biasa, manatau AMBULANS kan lalu, kan menyelamatkan bisdorang.
Your job is, sekadar jangan MENGAIBKAN orang. Pahamkan apa yang in my next sentence ani: IT IS NOT YOUR RIGHT TO PUT UP THOSE VICTIMS’ PICTURES.
Bukan pasal I’m close-minded. I don’t mind kalau ko buat post pasal accident atu. I don’t mind langsung.
Ko tau mengapa aku visit blog mu? Pasalnya arah blog kawan-kawanku, yang ko SPAM saja atu dengan comments mu yang berjurit atu, aku visit lah.. Maklum, naturally curious kan nyamu? Mun ku membaca awal-awal comments mu yang pasal orang yang udah mati ko liatkan atu, inda ku kan visit. Ani sudah ku meliat, ku tagur lah. Indakan ku biarkan. Sudah atu, inda lagi mau ditagur. Cubatah ko buat discussion sama orang tua mu, bisai kah inda ulah mu atu. Arah your petuan kah.
Memang banar tu, banyak orang becakap pasal barang-barang macam ani. Inda jua payah dalam BLOG kali ah. Sagainya jua beblog wang eh.
Pasalnya, out of RESPECT towards orang yang sudah mati, kitani inda dapat meliatkan arah orang lain benda-benda macam ani. Cukuptah information, gambar, video atu beranti arah diri, jangantah disebar-sebarkan.
Hopefully ko paham lah, aku ani cakap Melayu sudah ni. Barangkali ko inda paham maksud dalam post ku ani.
Anyway. You’ve already taken down your post atu, case pun sudah closed. The reason for my post is because aku marah, and I don’t want this case to happen again and again.
Tina.. I support you. Best to ignore him! I don’t think he is sane enough to understand simple things in life!
Thank you, Senor! I tried to ignore him, but I was seeing red. Nya orang Brunei, ‘gerigitan‘. But thank you, I will ignore him now, as I got it out of my system. Hehe.
To the other readers, I had to delete his URL from his comment (that was automatically inserted into his name when he filled out the comment form). Like I said, I don’t want any links from here going to his blog.
EdCharmd …..seorang yang terlalu BOD-DOH.
ko kurang ajar nda ko tau?? well we just human beings! sama jua nya dang.. u say u dun mind(cos u hate me brand u r such a CLOSED MINDD person!), tp stil wat i see here?? aku SPAM?? da owner seem dont mind tp y kamu2 plang MARAH?? well mana saja tah, i get used udah to wat jaat comment urg ne. u DUNO me to HATE nor LIKE me! skadarkan nda pyh tauh rah blog sal sagai?? eyh aku dpt pun dri BLOG urg jo x ah! bh grigitan th, report th PMO ah! cari tia seluruh BLOG dbrunei ne.. bru2 ne pun bru ku dpt email dats pics bah blame la DA RESOURCES, y blame on me ALONE?? they dun have RIGHTS u c! klo ko offendd im so SORRY, dat post udah jo bdelete, den tutup KES! u hate out on NOTHING! i treat dis ani nda penah tjadi sal aku nda mau ko liat aku ne BAD. SORRY again. assalamualaikum!
Q: Be nice. I think he simply understands words the way he sees them or wants to understand them. Not in the intention of the writer.
Edcharmd: Astaghfirullahalazim! Ko tau kenapa orang ‘hate’ you? Because you do not get the point. You said blame the resources, tapi you don’t give us the resources. You put up the pictures as if you were the only one who had it.
Plus, I am not hating out on anything. I don’t do hate. I do ‘gerigitan’, ’sasak’, but not hate. I don’t like some things people do on their blogs, but I don’t hate them.
However, I do understand why you’re leaving negative comments on my blog. Because this is the only other place you can leave comments other than your blog and your tagboard. The other comments that people leave about the pictures and your post are mostly anonymous.
Can I ask you to leave me alone? I have already closed this case, I don’t even talk about it anymore, so please ah. Pasalnya it seems like it’s you who is keeping the case open.
Readers: I don’t even know why I replied to him! Hahaha.
just another case of urg kebaruan blogging… attention seeking… you know how it goes kan?
you also know how i felt bout people passing round videos and photos of that limbang accident.. very disrespectful…
i feel that even though other people post them up, you shouldn’t be like monkey see, monkey do and buat also… palui jua tu ah.. mengikut sikap buruk urang lain.
byk lagi ku kan ckp pasal this matter, but cukup tah dulu. hehe. have a good weekend!
Yatah, but if it’s merely attention seeking, I can switch them off. I’ll just be really annoyed. But this is really serious to me, you know? If he wants to reply to any of my comments, it would be appreciated if it was well written, and serious. Nothing that would make him sound as if he knew me, because, from his comments, we all know he doesn’t.
Anyway. That’s right! Monkey see, monkey do! Just because everybody else is doing it, doesn’t mean you cannot be the bigger person by not continuing it or making it worse, right? Obviously there are countless of senseless people, but there is no reason you can’t be mature and see sense.
You can comment further, but he might visit your blog and leave negative comments without really seeing your valid points. Hahaha.
actually ada org kan liatkan aku the gambar kah jua aritue. which I refused. kureng sopan rasaku. orang sudah inda ada. kana liatkan dlm state cematu. apa jua rasa diri kana buat cematu. kesian bah family nya. issssh…
Kurang sopan is quite the right term. ;) Pasalnya it is not necessary wah for these pictures to surface.